We get told this over and over: We all have the same 24 hours a day and how we use them is up to us.
As if, somehow, we’re focusing on things that aren’t important to us. And that’s what hinders our writing.
But, let’s be honest, there are always competing priorities for a woman writer’s time:
Our job – because we all have bills
Our relationships – dealing with kids, partner, parents
Our health – exercise, leisure, sleep
For women, our true priorities – our relationships, our children, our work – dictate how we spend our hours each day.
We can’t, as so many advice-givers advocate, just make time to write. We have to schedule our writing time around our priorities. We focus on things that ARE important to us.
In addition to being a wife, mother, and writer, I am a college professor. Today is graduation. I MUST be at graduation, right. It’s a school requirement, I can’t skip it and write.
Should I feel bad about that? I think not.
Like me, you have challenges in your life that are personal to you. Your job is to determine your true priorities and manage your time around those priorities so that your challenges do not create barriers.
The solution is not to in time management, it is in priority management.